It should be located in the water tank. From the driver's perspective.
It can be tricky to get the lid open

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Sure, here's the translation:
"Note:"
It's possible that on the Passat, it's not labeled "109," but rather has a different designation. If you bought a "109" model without any specific information, it's possible that it might not fit

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I know from the Passat 3BG that there's a double contact relay there, and it's labeled with the number 219.
Similarly, I had to replace the starter on my Audi A4 B5 with the AJM engine; it would also occasionally fail to start, but instead of not starting at all, it would take a delayed start (around 6-7 seconds). Since then, no problems whatsoever.
