Hello,
I found an instruction manual under
http://www.tdiclub.com/TDIFAQ/TDiFAQ-7.html (which, of course, isn't as good as here

) on how to adjust the EGR valve via the control unit. Supposedly, if you don't overdo it, the exhaust values should remain within the normal range.
What do you think about this possibility? Wouldn't that then be legal? It seems to work, and you probably wouldn't notice much, maybe just a slightly more direct response.
I think this is a good, good compromise.
Happy tinkering...